There’s another element of sunglasses that should be known: Because less direct light hits the eye, the pupils are more dilated than they would be without the sunglasses. This permits that UVA to enter the eye in greater amount, as you rightly pointed out, and this is turning out to be a major contributor to cataracts.

Personally, I don’t wear sunglasses unless I’m up on a glacier. Then the glasses block out all incidental light.

Peace. And thanks for the contribution!

Sunglasses cause sunburn. The skin’s response to sunlight is regulated by the sensors on our eyes. if you are wearing sunglasses less light enters your eyeball . when light enters your eyeball it triggers a healthy defensive response of the skin . I can’t make this stuff up. Look it up.

In this particular case, the “freak” and “pervert” aspects of the relationship are merely details. Up close and personal, they seem to be the whole point, but stepping back, it would be of interest for Alpha Wolf to examine his view on relationships at their most elemental level: Does Alpha Wolf expect people to be who they present themselves to be or does Alpha Wolf have a pattern of disappointments in relationships where people mislead, lie or otherwise end up deceiving him?

It’s been my experience that if we go into relationships reluctantly, possibly expecting the worst, we will draw to us relationships that affirm those expectations and beliefs. The details that play out in that affirmation are not important (e.g., freak and pervert). What is important is that the expectation of what a relationship will ultimately offer is fulfilled.

The way to break the chain, ultimately, is to expect to have better relationships. And that, folks, can be a real challenge.

trane

Are you dealing with weight-related health issues? Your comment and its intensity doesn’t seem to match the spirit of the article. What button did this article push for you?

I appreciate the stress you would experience in such a scenario, but the only thing I’m offering — for free — is an opportunity for people to see their life from the perspective that they have full control. In your scenario, it would appear that you’re trying to push away the relationship. Generally speaking, pushing against something only tends to bring more struggle, e.g., war on drugs and war against racism.

Whenever you struggle against something, you invariably invest energy. That investment, from a physics point of view, creates a reaction. Relationships aren’t linear such that pushing away will result in both parties simply moving in opposite directions. It’s more complex than that.

We’re like planetary bodies interacting with other planetary bodies. If you know anything about gravitational interactions, you’ll recognize that when two free-moving bodies interact gravitationally, both bodies end up perturbed. The greater the gravity of the body, the more perturbation it will engender on the interacting partner.

Relationships are a lot like that. Instead of our physical mass, the “gravity” of our relationship encounters can be measured by the amount of energy we expend to them. The more energy we expend in our interaction, the greater the effect. Whether you’re struggling against the interaction or investing in it, the result is generally similar.

So, that’s the flip side of the equation. It’s absolutely fair to want nothing to do with somebody who ended up not being the person you thought he/she was. My opinion is that the easiest way to get rid of such a person is to simply let the person go instead of struggling against him/her. ALL relationships require maintenance, and that includes struggle. In her case, even the struggle you offer is giving her some sort of recognition from which she’s benefiting.

My advice would be to fully accept her for who she is and then move on. If you don’t engage her in any way whatsoever, she’ll lose the hooks that keep bringing her back into your life.

Best of luck with a stressful situation.

trane

(Expletives deleted. – Living Intentionally)

Our ability to turn a blind eye to our role on the planet is, I think, a reflection of the sense of separation we have from it and each other. Even our religions describe humanity has being separate from creation instead of as a part of it. When the ego experiences such a lifelong sense of disconnection, the cause/effect relationships of activity can be extremely difficult to recognize.

I hope to help people realize that everything is connected and that nothing ever is inconsequential.

Cheers,

trane